BC Bonus Mom Advice and Support

Good morning/afternoon beautiful Bonus Moms!

I’d like to know how many of you are now, will be, or have been for some time…Stepmoms in beautiful British Columbia, Canada? Or do you know some friends, family or acquaintances/colleagues that are going through a rough time adjusting to a blended family unit or becoming a step-parent?

Have you felt a total lack of support going through the every day battles, roller coaster of emotions and strain on your relationship? Do you wish that there was some sort of help in a world where the main focus tends to sway toward the bio-parents and their children? Do you feel there is a lack of professional or social support groups? Counselling/Coaching? Legal help? Even retreats to de-stress, learn and re-group your physical and mental well-being?

Please feel free to comment and/or contact me as in the upcoming months I will be training under the amazing and nationally renowned Jenna Korf (Certified Stepfamily Foundation Coach & Author of ‘Skirts at War: Beyond Divorced Mom/Stepmom Conflict’.

Once completed I will have some great news for all of you BC Bonus Moms!

If you are looking for a FB page for information on all of the above, the below link is going to be it.

Bare with me as I get started out and proceed through training for certification but please use the tools and support that we can all provide to  one another on this journey!

https://www.facebook.com/groups/848785481891933/

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“Hon. Mary Polak: Spousal Support: Support Change Not Spouses”

Hi everyone,
 
I am re-posting on behalf of my friend Georgia as she is about 40 signatures short and honestly, this really needs to get to the next step.
 
I recently signed the petition “Hon. Mary Polak: Spousal Support: Support Change Not Spouses” and wanted to see if you could help by adding your name.
 
This is a local, British Columbia, Canada, petition which will go to our Langley MLA then on to Christy Clarke then hopefully through the processes to be passed to law.
 
This is NOT something that will aim at the parents that work together to do what is best for their children, but moreso help to focus the judicial process and system toward a regulated, fair trial and outcomes for those that are not able to work together due to a HCP (High Conflict Parent).
 
For those of you that are directly effected by this or your friends or family are, then you will already know how impossible this is for those we love who are trying to do the right thing for their children and family. If you are a son, daughter, brother, sister, grandparent, cousin, niece or nephew or are a colleague or friend that can reach out to try to make an honest difference….doing it the right way….then please read the petition and sign to not only help children suffer less in the process but to help the parents have a more fair and smooth process.
 
Our goal is to reach 100 signatures and we need more support. You can read more and sign the petition here:
 
 
Thanks so much for your support!

SIGNATURES REQUIRED!!

Hi everyone,

We are at the halfway point for obtaining signatures for the petition “Hon. Mary Polak: Spousal Support:  Support change not spouses.” and wanted to see if you could help by adding your name.

As I don’t know who has signed and who has not I just need to keep posting and asking everyone to share!

For those of you that are directly effected by this or your friends or family are, you will already know how impossible this is for those we love who are trying to do the right thing for their children and family.

Our goal is to reach 100 signatures and we need more support. You can read more and sign the petition here:

https://www.change.org/p/hon-mary-polak-spousal-support-support-change-not-spouses?recruiter=false&utm_source=share_petition&utm_medium=copylink

Thanks so much for your support!

 

RE-POST: New law requires family courts to take closer look at child custody arrangements — FOX2now.com

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via New law requires family courts to take closer look at child custody arrangements — FOX2now.com

SHARED: FIVE REASONS TO FIRE YOUR DIVORCE LAWYER — Lawdiva’s Blog

Unless you live in small town Canadiana, there are plenty of divorce lawyers to choose from when your world comes crashing down and you become a victim of divorce. It is no exaggeration to say that in many cases a divorce is worse than the death of a spouse. In major centres the menu of […]

via FIVE REASONS TO FIRE YOUR DIVORCE LAWYER — Lawdiva’s Blog

SHARED: 7 Tips for the Parent Whose Relationship with Their Child is Restricted — Gary Direnfeld, MSW, RSW

Many parents with severely restricted relationships to their children hold tremendous rage or anger at agencies, institutions, courts or the custodial parent. However, their limited relationship may be more a consequence of their responses to problems, than the problems directly. Provocation by others cannot be used to excuse their own behavior if inappropriate or worse, […]

via 7 Tips for the Parent Whose Relationship with Their Child is Restricted — Gary Direnfeld, MSW, RSW

Shared: Arguing with a Narcissist – YouTube Video —

My YouTube Channel has hit over a thousand views in about three weeks. I have no way of knowing if that is “typical” or below average or whatever. But the thought of people spending over 128 hours watching videos of me talk about narcissism. Strange thought. Here is “Arguing with a Narcissist” a little five […]

via Arguing with a Narcissist – YouTube Video —

Marketing Your Peacemaking Practice: Do you know about the funnel? — Gary Direnfeld, MSW, RSW

In this excerpt from my interview with Rackham Karlsson, I discuss the marketing funnel: I swung into private practice the late part of 1989, beginning of 1990. I was a social worker in a medical setting. I was unsatisfied with the quality of service in that setting, as a result swung into private practice. I did […]

via Marketing Your Peacemaking Practice: Do you know about the funnel? — Gary Direnfeld, MSW, RSW

Stepmom vs. Stepdad

Just a question to throw out there since I’m wide awake in the middle of the night…..lol

Do any of you feel that there is a double standard with stepdads vs. stepmoms?

On TV shows, radio and even reading articles it always seems that the men that “step up and step in” to raise another mans child/ren are the most amazing people on earth yet the stepmoms still seem to get the short end of the stick and dealing with a whole lotta hell.

I’m not personally saying that they have it easy, but just noticed that there definitely seems to be a divide and I wondered why? Is it as bio-dads really don’t have as many issues as bio-moms do with regard to someone else helping to raise their children? Do they simply move on quicker and not hold as much bitterness?

Any opinions on this would be interesting to hear. TIA!

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